There are officially three weeks left in the year so a lot of us are making plans and promises for the New Year. Resolutions are the thing that most of us create as soon as December rolls around and either you or someone you know will say that 2016 will be their year. And they or you may be right, but you won’t be happy if you don’t work on your trigger words. What are trigger words you ask? It’s those words that really get under your skin. The mislabels that people give you when they’re ready to act like a Judge Judy.
These are the words that set us off and make us angry and react like we don’t have the good sense the lord gave us. I have trigger words. They’ve been reduced after having a child. I think this is because being a parent requires the patience and dignity that a nun would need in a Las Vegas nightclub. But seriously, in order for us to make it through 2016 and every year after that is for us to work on and then distance ourselves from our trigger words. My trigger words used to be insults about my writing but I now appreciate those.
Your trigger words may be something like someone calling you ghetto or even insecure because you don’t like your spouse having friends of the opposite sex. Pretty much any negative label or personal attack that can encourage a verbal (or physical) altercation, damage relationships, or ruin your day are trigger words. The way I’ve learned to deal with my trigger words is by not taking it personal or taking the people using them seriously. But deeper than that, separating myself from the words that set me off began with knowing myself. If you know that you are not what you are being negatively labeled then let those words roll right off your back.
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Then you have to look at the people who are using the words that trigger your negative emotions. Sometimes these people don’t give two spits about you and say these things to you to get a reaction. And while going off and reading them like the book of the month may seem like the best way to make you feel better, it doesn’t. You’re just giving them the satisfaction of pissing on your happy because you’ll continue thinking about them and their use of the trigger words long after they’ve said it.
Whenever you find yourself getting riled up over a trigger word being said by someone other than yourself and feel you’re about to act in any way other than happy, ask yourself if you agree with what they are saying about you. If the answer is no, then don’t let it get to you. Their opinion of you is worth what you paid for it, nothing.
Trigger words elicit emotional reactions and reacting emotionally clouds logic. So next to sculpting summer abs, becoming a vegan, or quitting smoking make sure you make a resolution to work on your trigger words so you stay unbothered and unmoved by the words that come out of other people’s mouths.
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